Now, in today’s world — a world full of gender fluidity, single mothers raising boys into men, grandmothers taking up the mantle too — we are encouraged, even taught, to be sensitive. Sensitive towards women, sensitive towards each other, sensitive towards change. And it’s a good thing. A world with better men is a better world. Full stop.
But here’s the rub: men don’t want a "better" world at the expense of their masculinity. And that’s where the conversation about something as simple (yet oddly complicated) as how we pee comes in.
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The Peeing Position: A Man’s Right?
Most men have their set beliefs about peeing — standing tall is almost seen as a badge of honor. For many, it feels almost like a divine right. That feeling you get standing there, aiming confidently, is, for lack of a better word, manly.
Suggest to a room full of men that they should squat or sit while peeing? You might as well tell them to hand in their "man cards" at the door. It’s taboo. It’s uncomfortable. It sparks tension. Gender norms are strong and stubborn, and peeing, believe it or not, falls right into that battlefield.
But in a household full of women? Different story. Some women — understandably — have suggested that men sit down when peeing. Their reasons are practical: it’s cleaner, it’s less noisy, it’s considerate. From their side, it makes perfect sense. No stray splashes, no arguments over messy bathrooms.
However, from a man’s side? It feels like an infringement. A small but deeply personal loss. And honestly, I get that too.
Personal Choice Over Public Pressure
At the end of the day, here’s where I land: each man is entitled to his own choice. Whether you sit, stand, lean, squat, whatever — it’s your body, your decision.
Gender identity, external expectations, even societal trends — they can suggest things, but they don't get the final say. You do.
It's Not My Place to Conclude for People
Indeed, this might seem like a small issue, but it taps into something bigger: how we navigate change without losing ourselves. Sitting or standing to pee is symbolic of a lot of modern tensions — between what's viewed as tradition and what's viewed as progress, between masculinity and sensitivity.
In my view, it’s simple: if sitting feels right for you, do it. If standing feels more like you, stick with it. There's no one-size-fits-all.
In a world trying to make everyone fit into neat little boxes, sometimes standing your ground (or sitting, if you prefer) is the real act of strength.
And that’s my honest take.
No judgment. No jibes. Just real talk.