Stop explaining yourself to seek approval from other people

The Unsaid Garden...

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Explaining yourself will wear you out. Image: Dezgo generative AI

There's a wisdom that blooms with age, the understanding that explanations are not always necessary. We offer them readily, these seeds of justification scattered in the hope they'll take root in others' minds. But sometimes, the ground is not fertile for our explanations.

We yearn for understanding, for the intricate garden of our choices to be admired and nurtured. Yet, explanations can feel like fragile seedlings, easily trampled in the rush of judgment. They can become weeds, choking the space for genuine connection.

The truth is, some gardens flourish best in quietude. The gentle hum of your preferences, the unique blooms of your heart's desires – these are yours alone to cultivate. They are the roots that anchor you, a silent language only your soul understands.

There's a freedom in letting your garden speak for itself, in the quiet confidence that your choices, like vibrant flowers, have a right to bloom, even if misunderstood. It allows you to exist authentically, a vibrant ecosystem true to itself, even if the world doesn't quite grasp the beauty of every wildflower.

So hold onto the quiet power of not explaining yourself. It's a space where your garden flourishes untamed, a sanctuary where your truth can blossom, wild and free.

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